By Judy Berman
It’s the little quiet moments that I enjoy most, and the exhilarating times, too, in our 31 years of marriage.
What advice would I give for a happy marriage? I defer to others to bring you the pearls of wisdom that might work for you.
- Never go to bed angry
Even if you have to stay up several days and emerge with Rocky the Raccoon eyes from sleep deprivation. Of course, by then, you might be so tired that you’ve forgotten what your argument was about in the first place. That’s a win-win situation.
- Remember those three little words: “Let’s eat out.”
That worked for comedian Henny Youngman and his wife.
When asked the secret of their long marriage, Youngman confessed: “We take time to go to a restaurant two times a week. A little candlelight, dinner, soft music and dancing. She goes Tuesdays. I go Fridays.”
- An open-and-shut policy:
Benjamin Franklin recommended: “Keep your eyes wide open before marriage, and half-shut afterwards.”
Or, to quote another profound source:
“Like good wine, marriage gets better with age – once you learn to keep a cork in it.” (Gene Perret)
- Don’t stop believing:
“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, and always with the same person.” (Mignon McLaughlin)
That bumpy ride on the road of married life often requires some realignment. To navigate it, to survive the ups and downs of life, means those in the vehicle might have to reset their GPS, and their outlooks to reach a common goal.
- Keep talking:
“A happy marriage is a long conversation which always seems too short.” (Andre Maurois)
That line of communication links you together. Your partner can’t read your mind.
- Keep laughing:
“A healthy relationship should have a lot more comedy than drama.” (Dave Willis)
Laughter bonds people. It might be lines in a movie that gets you to giggle. Or a weird situation you spot when you’re out and about. Inside jokes that keep on giving are the best.
Each relationship has to find its own rhythm. I have to thank my husband, Dave, for his patience, love and support.
Do you have a quote about being happily married? Please share below.
Source of many of these quotes are from: “40 Best Funny Marriage Quotes and Advice” http://quotesaboutmarriage.com/40-best-funny-marriage-quotes
Photo: from the movie “Up.” For the second image, here is the link: http://www.supertran.net/2009/08/movie-up-2009.html
Photo: Dave and I (Judy Berman) in Venice, Italy, June 2015.