By Judy Berman
I’m puzzled at times why some things go awry. I question what I could I have done differently.
There are times when we all feel stuck, when a job or a relationship is going south. But even those dark moments can become great teachers.
Once, when I lost a job, we were holding two mortgages – one on our old house after a sale fell thru, the other on a house we’d just moved into. This “layoff” happened right after I requested time off for surgery.
It was a difficult time. Too much month at the end of the money.
Initially, I was bitter and angry. But, I don’t regret going thru it.
The people I met along the way and the experiences I had – both good and bad – helped me become a more confident and resourceful person.
When you let go of being the victim, you are in a better position to take control of your life and achieve greater peace.
“Above all, be the heroine in your life, not the victim,” author Nora Ephron said.
Time for a reality check. You don’t need to be a Pollyanna.
There’s no question that setbacks and personal tragedies – such as a debilitating illness, death of a loved one and job losses – can be overwhelming.
You can either let those hard times define you or help you emerge stronger. These thoughts are at the heart of Pema Chödrön’s “When Things Fall Apart.”
How to find that calm center? Let music soothe your soul, escape into a good book, seek a change of scenery by a walk along a river or thru the woods.
Or, you might want to step outside your comfort zone and help those who are struggling the most.
What suggestions would you make on how to handle challenges?
Photo: Light at the end of the tunnel (pedestrian underpass in Tbilisi) – taken Dec. 29, 2012, by Sandro Kharazashvili. Source: Flickr: Light at the end of the tunnel. https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/7/7f/Light_at_the_end_of_the_tunnel_%28pedestrian_underpass_in_Tbilisi%29.jpg/365px-Light_at_the_end_of_the_tunnel_%28pedestrian_underpass_in_Tbilisi%29.jpg
Photo: Historic Cocoa Riverfront Park, Cocoa, Florida – taken by Cocoa Mayor Henry Parrish III on 12-28-15.
Photo: Book Buddies – http://www.philly.com/philly/blogs/phillypets/Berks-County-animal-shelters-Book-Buddies-program-is-the-cutest-thing.html – The Berks County animal shelter’s Book Buddies program in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, is one of many ways to reach out and help others.