Love Is All Around

By Judy Berman

A wedding ring. There is no beginning. There is no end. Just like the song, “Love Is All Around.”

Well, before the ring, there was a beginning. Just what is it that draws people together?

“It was a million, tiny little things that, when you add them all up, it just meant that we were supposed to be together.” In the movie, “Sleepless in Seattle,” that’s the explanation Sam Baldwin (played by Tom Hanks), a widower, gave about how he knew he loved his wife.

“I was just taking her hand, to help her out of a car, and I knew it. It was like magic,” Baldwin (Hanks) said.

Love is in the air during the dating stage. But the real test is whether that spell will last after the knot is tied.

Before Dave and I married, I used to kid him about his limited skills in the kitchen. He could sure microwave a mean pizza. Now, he helps me make meals that might be the envy of the Food Network gurus. (Jamie Oliver, Bobby Flay and Emeril Lagasse – move on over.)

I love the tenderness and caring he gives to our cats – brushing them each morning before their breakfast. It’s also a joy to see him play ball with our grandkids, and how he laughs as he reads to them – changing his voice with each character and really getting into the stories.

I love the tender moments when we’re out for our nightly stroll. I love how he cheered me on when I went back to college, even though it meant he’d be the only breadwinner for about a year.

I’d like to think that he’d feel as strongly about me as Steve Martin did about his true love (his real-life wife at the time, Victoria Tennant) in “L.A. Story.”

Victoria asked Steve, who played a weather forecaster in the movie, what would he do if she were to leave L.A. and return to England.

“All I know is … if I had the power, I would turn the winds around. I would roll in the fog. I would bring in storms. I would change the polarity of the Earth so compasses couldn’t work, so your plane couldn’t take off.”

A powerful and romantic moment to be sure. But that was Hollywood.

All I have to say is, “Dave. I’m so glad you took the plunge with me into the deep end of the matrimonial pool 28 years ago.”

As they say in the song, “You know I love you. I always will. There’s no beginning, There’ll be no end.”

Happy Anniversary.


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* Main Photo: Love – heart – There is a lot to love about astronomy, and … photographer Julien Girard offers a “heartfelt” example in this image. A bright pink symbol of love appears to float ethereally against the backdrop of the night sky over ESO’s Paranal Observatory in northern Chile. Girard drew the heart in the air by shining a tiny flashlight keychain at the camera during a 25-second exposure with a tripod.

* Photo: our wedding rings

* LA story – fog scene (Steve Martin and Victoria Tennant) – video clip

When Harry Met Sally – (Billy Crystal and Meg Ryan) – video clip

Love is all around, by The Troggs (1967) (music video)

    1. I just read your post, Tina. Your comment that it feels like you’ve been married a 100 years is one that Dave and I have differing views on. He says he feels like he’s been married forever, saying he can’t remember a time when he wasn’t married (and that’s good). I think of it as it feels like just yesterday when we met (because the “forever” part sounds negative).

      It’s one of those comments where I kid him and tell him “there is no right answer.” Like Bill Cosby’s routine about his wife waking him in the middle of the night to ask “If I die, will you marry again?” (Guys: a tip. Run for the hills if your S.O. asks this question.) 🙂

      We are yin and yang, and that is good.

  1. Loved this, Judy! Happy anniversary to the two of you.

    You’re quoting two of Cate’s favorites: Sleepless in Seattle and When Harry Met Sally. I’ve HAD to watch SIS maybe 50+ times over the years. I secretly like it, but don’t tell MLB! hehehe

  2. oh, Judy, happy anniversary. I love that moment in LA Story…it is good to have a day when we look at the one we share our life with and realise anew how extraordinary they are.

    1. This scene from Steve Martin’s “L.A. Story” just captured my heart. Kate, that’s how I think many of us would like to feel … that your loved one would move mountains to be by your side. There were so many great lines and moments in it. It’s sad that his marriage didn’t last.

  3. Anniversaries are a wonderful time to reflect on why we love our spouses, but it seems you need no reminding. You seem to fully appreciate your spouse, and I believe that’s a big part of what keeps a marriage strong. Happy Anniversary, Judy.

    1. As I wrote this, and thought about some of my favorite movies, I realized the “little things” are really huge in a marriage. Thanks, Lisa, for the positive thoughts. I’m betting many people, like me, also silently renew their vows at other people’s weddings as we reflect on the reasons we married.

  4. I hope you two had a wonderful day yesterday. I think when you have found the right person, time just disappears so their is really no wrong answer. It will be 3 years for Vern and I next month but I too just feel like we have always been together. The love you and Dave have and the love Danielle and Keith have has always had me in awe and I hoped I would find a love like that someday..and now I have.
    Thanks for inspiring my love story and I am still in awe of yours. I love you both.

    1. I was just thinking today, Jenn, of your marriage to Vern and how happy you are. It’s a beautiful thing when you’ve found someone who you love and who loves you in return. Thank you for your very sweet comments.

  5. What a wonderful gift to read this beautiful post on OUR anniversary Judy!! Belated wishes to Dave and you and may your love grow ever stronger in the years to come 🙂

    1. Madhu, were you also married on August 18th? What a coincidence. I hope you had a wonderful anniversary celebration. Dave and I also wish you continued blessings and that your love will always be “more than yesterday, less than tomorrow.”

  6. Ah! It’s always nice to meet another hopeless romantic… : )

    That Dave sounds like a lucky chap, and a good man. Nice to know he’s expanded his skill set and can now cook an entire turkey dinner in the microwave, complete with pumpkin pie… : P

    L.A. Story… was that the one where she and her mother played the tuba into the phone? I could never get my own mom to do that. Pity… : (

    Always loved that Troggs song, puts me in a trance whenever I hear it. Best use of violins in a pop song ever, IMHO.

    Great post, Judy, and I really like your header. I’m thinkin’ your sunny disposition is a match for the rain any day. A belated happy anniversary to you and Dave!! : )

  7. You’ve met Dave, then? Mark … he often helps make the Thanksgiving dinner, but he’s way beyond the microwave stage. 🙂

    You know, I’d entirely forgotten about that tuba exchange over the phone. Disturbing. Joking. I did love the movie.

    Glad you loved The Troggs. I considered playing Wet Wet Wet who does The Troggs’ cover song only because the video was in color. I agree The Troggs’ version is super.

    Thank you for the anniversary wishes, Mark. I appreciate your stopping by and for your charming comments.

  8. Beautiful Post Judy! Belated happy anniversary to both of you!
    Thanks a lot for sharing this line: ““All I know is … if I had the power, I would turn the winds around. I would roll in the fog. I would bring in storms. I would change the polarity of the Earth so compasses couldn’t work, so your plane couldn’t take off.” It was just beautiful.
    You people are the real inspiration for the people, who are in love and also for those who believe in love. 🙂
    Best wishes to you and your wonderful family!!

    1. I’m really touched by your beautiful comments, Arindam. Thank you.
      That line that Steve Martin said in the movie, “L.A. Story,” has really stuck with me. That and the music by Enya – Wow!
      It’s sweet of you to say that people like my husband and me are an inspiration for those who believe in love. I feel that way about writers/directors, Steve Martin and Nora Ephron, who were the romantic and comedic threads in the movies above.

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